In October of 2018 our little princess was reunified with her father. It has been very difficult for me to write this article. After raising our princess for 19 months we had to pack up her belongings and send them to her father’s. Her father did everything that DCF had asked him to do. He is working a full time job he is passing his drug tests. He even rented a home where princess has her own room. It has been rough on our monkey he had a few setbacks after she moved out.
We had to extend his counseling and actually get a behavior specialist to work with us because he was becoming out of control. He was attacking people including his teacher at school he jumped on her back off of a table one day. He would climb the book shelves at school sit on other children and run out the classroom door. At home he would throw temper tantrums kick walls and throw things. It was a very difficult time for all of us. We all missed princess very much. We get to see princess once a week for 4 hours. We call it Tay Day. We try to spend those 4 hours engaged in activities and fun things. Sometimes we just let them play.
The children act just like regular siblings. Sometimes they play together and sometimes they fight. One day princess and monkey were Playing hide-and-go-seek. Something happened and princess got angry and she stumped off and said I’m Going to play hide-and-seek by myself.
These kids are always saying things that crack us up. When it’s time for Princess to go home our little monkey always gets upset. He always gets 2 or 3 hugs before she leaves.
Ed and monkey always like to tease and play jokes on each other. This last visit Ed went to pick up princess. When he came in the door princess hid behind the couch. When monkey asked where princess was Ed told monkey that princess didn’t wanna come because last time monkey wouldn’t let princess play with his blocks. Monkey almost broke out in tears because his sister didn’t want to come over. At the last second princess jumped up and started laughing and ran over and hugged him. Monkey laughed too and then said to Ed, Daddy that’s not funny. We all laughed.
Our family even though it’s not a traditional family we all love each other and we all tease each other just like a normal family.
Since princess moved in with her father he has had DCF called on him once. The report claimed that she was going to school dirty and unkempt. There were other things listed in the report that were unfounded. But we have noticed that when she comes to visit us she looks unkempt. Her clothes don’t fit any more. They are the the same ones I sent with her back in October. Her hair is always messy and the bows that I sent with her are never in her hair. I know to most people that wouldn’t be a thing. To me it makes me sad because my little princess was always wanting to be dressed just right and her hair done and she loved her bows.
Since going to live with her father she has quit dance class. We had her in dance class a year that she was with us and she loved it. She was in dance class when she left and I cleared it with the dance studio and made sure everything was paid for for the rest of the year. I made sure that she had brand new dance shoes and outfits with pretty little tutus.
Princess says that she wanted to quit. That just doesn’t make sense to me and it breaks my heart. Princess was dancing before she could even walk. I find myself going back and watching videos from when she was less than a year old and dancing to the beat of any song that we put on. I remember the 1st time after she started walking that she danced with me. It was at Ed’s birthday party.
Even before we got custody of princess and monkey for the 1st time we were in their lives all the time. We were there for many milestones as well as most holidays. All of their birthday parties were at our house. Every christmas was spent here on Christmas Eve. Until everything went wrong. Which brought us to the point that we’re at right now.
DD always calls when Princess is here visiting. It gives her a chance to talk to all 3 of her children. DD Continues to write letters to all 3 children. She sends some of princesses letters to our house and some to HD’s house.
We are a little worried about moving which we are working and doing now. We are afraid that HD will not allow princess to come up and visit us and our new home. We’re hoping that he lets her come spend the summer with us. If for some reason the children no longer have visitation with each other the good news is DD gets out in February and will be getting visitation or partial custody shared custody I’m not sure what it’s called in this state anymore. She will have access to her daughter one way or another. That is something that DD and HD will have to work out between themselves. They just need to remember that there are 2 other children that are involved in this situation. Monkey and Sunshine may only be half siblings to our princess but they don’t know what a 1/2 sibling means. They just know that they are all brother and sisters.
We have done our best to help HD in the transition as well as continuing to offer help if he needs it with princess. We would like to be one happy family.
We all went to an event at fun spot together. We had a lot of fun but I think it was a little confusing for princess to have HD and Mimi and Papa there. We hope to have more family time together.
It has been very difficult for us since she moved out. We miss her so much everyday. We know that living with her father maybe what’s best for her on some levels. But we know that when she was here she was well taken care of. We also knew that she was safe.
Thank you for following along as I raised these beautiful souls.
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